10 TIPS TO PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION

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A 27 year old man graduated from a foremost university in Nigeria with a second class upper degree in Economics. Five years after completing his national youth service, he is still in search of a job. He has attended several interviews but none materialized positively. He is bitter, frustrated and angry with the country for lack of opportunity to make a living. It never occurred to him that the interviews he had attended were opportunities. He craves to experience a new and better life. He contemplates all sort of things including crime, but his late father’s advice keep re-echoing in his ear: “remember the son of whom you are. Don’t bring shame to this family”. His father was a man noted for strong integrity in his village, Ugboha in Edo State

Then one day nine months ago the young man appeared in my office for a job interview. At the interview he was brilliant but he lacked some specific attributes we needed for the position. He was thus not selected, but I asked him to wait for me for I wanted to have a word with him after the interview. The young interested me. When I ushered him into my private office and asked if he would like tea or coffee, he declined. I asked pantry to get him a cup of coffee anyway. Then I took time to educate him on why he was not selected for the final stage of the recruitment process. What the young man lacked was self-confidence, self-belief short and simple. At this point I realized it was now my responsibility to change his mindset, and I remembered Pastor Sam Adeyemi’s teachings at a Leadership Seminar I attended in 2009. I printed some aspects of the teachings and handed them to the man sitting smugly before. Today, the young man is gainfully employed at Etisalat.

Are you currently in the kind of situation this man was in nine months ago? Here are a few tips for you:

1. Think Positive Things: The first law of success states that "first within, then without". The first thing you should do is to change your thinking. Always think positive things about yourself because "as a man thinketh in his heart, so he is". Start now to think success, happiness and fulfillment. Believe it deeply in your heart and it shall manifest.

2. Cultivate A Positive Self Image: Consciously cultivate and develop a positive self-image. Begin to see yourself as God, with the ability and capacity to cause positive things to happen in your life. Look for that special gift God has given you (everybody has got one). Develop it, hone it and showcase it. Do not believe what people say about you. Believe in yourself, believe in what you say you are. You are not what people say you are. You are who God says you are and what you choose to be"

3. See And Believe Positive Things: "Whatever the eyes see consistently over a period of time, will stick and shape a person’s mind. Transformation can only take place where there is internal conversion. So, consciously and consistently choose to see positive things. Do not look at the ugly side of things, look at their positive side. Conversely, do not believe in negative things. I have come across many who tell me that some witch in their family is responsible for their situation. I usually tell such people that they themselves are the witch. There is nothing like witch craft, but if you believe in it then it will manifest in your life. Everything or situation starts from the mind.


4 Talk Positive: "There is power in the tongue". "Words have the power to heal or kill". So, chose to say positive things about yourself always because "you have to say it before you can see it"


5 Dream Big: The late Bishop Benson Idahosa once said that "If God gives you a vision, he will make a provision". Whatever the situation, always dream big and consistently pursue your vision. As Bob Proctor said, “you were born rich”

6 Be Prepared for your Opportunity: Read, read and read. Read anything that comes your way. This will place you in a position to recognize opportunities in line with your aspiration. Reading is like investing. I have never seen anyone who lost something because he chose to read. Information is power. Even if you have got all the first class degrees, don’t stop reading. A man who does not read has no advantage over the one who cannot. So seek for more knowledge, you can never lose.

7. Associate With Like Minds: Associate with people from whom you can learn positive things. Seek to have a mentor who can guide you to your dreams. Where this is not possible, then read stories of people you admire. Also, chose to make friends with people who think and act like the way you do.

8. Reaction to issues/situations: Whatever the situation, chose to be cool, calm, confident and urbane at all times for "it is not what a person says or does to you that makes you sad, it is how you react to what is said or done to you". Learn to forgive all those who have offended you. Forgiveness begets forgiveness.

9. Do Something: There is something magical about doing something: If you succeed you earn; if you fail you learn; either way you gain. Do away with procrastination and do something to earn a living, no matter how small. Don’t just sit there waiting for that big job to land on your lap. Start something. For instance, pick up a part time teaching job – just for the moment. If you can’t teach, learn how to teach. Only be sure to teach in the area you are strong in. It is through whatever you do that break-through comes.

10. Take good care of yourself: Give yourself a treat, have a good time, have fun, look good, live your life and regret nothing. Demand more from life, for you deserve it. Remember: you were born rich.

FRANK OFILI